So I did it. I created an online profile for myself on one of the free dating sites.
I had been really hesitant to put my picture up for some reason, and had been feeling a bit weird about it. I guess it is part of feeling hesitant about putting myself out there. It feels strange to put my picture on the internet for people to judge. But, I guess that is what I have been doing while looking at the profiles online. And I guess that is what happens in almost any situation where you might find someone you want to date. People are judging whether they find one another attractive, whether they think that the other is desirable.
But I did it, I chose a couple of cute pictures of myself, and put them up.
And then I wrote a little bio. You would think that I would find it easy to do a bio, since I spend so much time blogging and talking about myself, but I didn't. It was hard to write something that was true, and didn't sound ridiculous.
I basically wrote that I am into the outdoors, that I cook & bake, and that I like to read and watch movies. Pretty generic. I don't really know what I am supposed to write to make it more appealing.
Actually, I have no idea what I am supposed to write at all.
Any suggestions? What should I be writing about?
And I guess the next step is messaging someone who I am drawn to. Which is also a bit scary. I am not sure what to say, or what to lead with.
I guess, alternately, I could just wait for someone to message me...
Good for you TL! I think they call it 'putting yourself out there'.
ReplyDeleteI resisted too for all of the same reasons. But I'm going to give it a go, at least for a little while. I just had my first 'date'. Read all about it!!
It's at least character-building . . . . :)
Good luck Single Girl.
ReplyDeleteWant to respond to your twitter but it's more than 140 characters.. and I'm a Twitter newbie :P
ReplyDeleteOn sleep: Have you tried Melatonin? Avail. OTC @ drug stores. Google it for more info.
Break up music:
I really like 'Breathe Again' by Sara Bareilles.. also Beyonce Me Myself and I :P Adele's 'Someone Like You' is perfect but it makes me cry endlessly.
I just broke up with my boyfriend yesterday (dated throughout all of university)... it's been coming for many months, but still. Very glad I came across your blog. It's comforting :) I hope you're able to get to sleep!!
Also, your blog and Catherine's (of simplysolo.wordperss.com) blog inspired me to start my own :) I've only posted once but I think it will be good to have a place to write about my breakup. Thanks for the inspiration!
ReplyDeleteNat, Yes, I am going to have to put myself out there. I'm a bit terrified! We'll see what happens!
ReplyDeleteladystou, Thanks!
amanneroftravel, Yes, I have tried melatonin. I don't really find it helps much. I do have a prescription for a sleep aid, but have been trying not to use it too much. I think this week I am suffering a bit of jetlag from my vacation. I'm going to check out your blog right now!