Friday, February 4, 2011

What I didn't count on

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Throughout the fall, I was waiting for my unwedding day. I was waiting for the day to come and go, so that I could get going with my life. In the months leading up to that day, I felt like once it came and went I would breathe a sigh of relief. I would put it behind me. I would stop having to tell people that I wasn't getting married. I wouldn't be getting close to the big day. I wouldn't have to tell anyone that I wasn't engaged.

What I didn't really think about what the months after. January. What would happen then.

Well, it turns out, that a lot happens.

I received a survey from the travel agency that we had booked our honeymoon with. It was a welcome home survey, asking how our trip was, wondering about the cruise ship, and welcoming us home. Hilariously, it had actually been forwarded from my old address to my new one by CanadaPost, since my mail forwarding hasn't run out. The letter inside was addressed to both me & my ex.

I also got an email from a local photographer. Prior to the wedding, I had been thinking about doing a boudoir wedding shoot, as a wedding gift to my ex. Leading up to the wedding, I decided on a different gift for him (which I had already purchased) and decided not to go with the photos. I did, however, tell the photographer that I might be interested in doing a shoot shortly after the wedding. So, being the great business woman that she is, she contacted me a month after when the wedding should have been, gushing her congratulations and wondering if I wanted to do a shoot for my new husband.

(These are not my feet.)

In addition to those two lovely situations, I received an email from a home equity loan agency looking to loan "us" money (for the home I no longer own), an email from an online vendor that we used, looking for review, and an email from the local wedding show company letting me know about their "new family" photoshoot packages.

This week at work, I also had a telephone meeting with a client in which she asked me how my wedding was, and was wondering when my name change was going to happen on my emails.

So yeah. I didn't count on this stuff.

But, life goes on. With all of the things that happened this month, I only freaked a couple of times. Sure, I teared up after getting off the phone with my client, but I pulled myself together, and continued with my work day. (Ok, there might have been a mini foot stomping incident in a coworkers office that accompanied the tearing up, but after that I got on with my work day).

How was your January?

PS. I am so sorry about going MIA. I promise that once this crazy LSAT thing is done with, I will sit down and read everything you all have written in the last month. I rewrite on February 12, so I will catch up with you all next weekend. I miss all of you a lot!


  1. I just read your guest post on simplysolo and now read up on your blog- and want to congratulate you on your writing, courage, and perspective. It's beautiful and very inspiring.

    all the best,


  2. I know it's tough, and these things seem to keep happening, just know the hardest times of dealing with this are behind you. I too, was surprised by these kinds of things. And, sometimes, I still get the "Oh, I heard you got married, congratulations!!" You get better at dealing with it as time goes on, and luckily, as time goes by, this happenes less and less. You are doing great!

  3. Larissa, Thanks so much for stopping by! I have been a bit MIA over the past few weeks because of the LSAT, but should be back soon! Hope you stop by again!

    Cat, I will be happy when it tapers off. I am just so caught off guard when it happens! I said to someone today that "I was supposed to get married six weeks ago" and it seemed so strange. I feel like a lifetime has passed since my unwedding day, not just six weeks. Whew, healing is hard work! :)