I lost some friends in my breakup.
It is funny isn't it? You don't really think of whose friends are whose when you are in a relationship. You just think of them as friends. People you spend time with on the weekends. People you go on vacations with. You think of them as your friends.
But then when there is a break up, the lines are divided. You lose friends. In fact, you might never hear from people who you thought to be your good friends. They might not call/email/facebook you at all. And you aren't sure what you will say to then when you run into them. Because you are bound to, at some point.
So yeah, I lost some friends.
But there has been space left in my life for new friends.
I've started hanging out with a great bunch of women. Some of who are single. One of who has been through an awful divorce in the past few years. They are friends of friends. And now, I am getting invited to events and get togethers. With new friends.
It is interesting being friends with people who only know me as a single person. Who never met my ex. And who don't really see me as someone who was ready to settle down. It is strange that they don't know what my house was like, or what my life was like. They only know me as I am now.
And even though they didn't know me before, they have been amazingly supportive. Inviting me to parties. Inviting me for supper. Suggesting books. Sending emails to check on me after my surgery. Being great friends.
Losing friends, and losing relationships isn't all bad.
Sometimes you end up with brand new friends.