When I got up this morning, and checked my email, there was a message from a friend who lives in another part of the country. She was wishing me well, since my wedding is in just a couple of days.
When we got engaged, we shouted it from the rooftops. We posted it on Facebook. We sent emails. We announced it to everyone.
When we got un-engaged, not so much. We quietly deleted our relationship statuses. I basically hid in my new apartment for weeks. I sent emails to those closest to me, and hoped that they would tell the others.
The friend who emailed me this morning, is really just an acquaintance. We worked together at a summer camp, 7 years ago. We no longer have mutual friends, but have kept in touch through email and Facebook for the past number of years. I didn't tell her myself, so she didn't know.
I sent her back a quick email to let her know that I am not, getting married in a few days. How terrible.
I also decided to deactivate my Facebook account for the next little while. I don't want the same kind of thing happen, on a more public level. I don't want anyone to congratulate me on my big day. Or, worse, to say that they are "thinking of me today".
So I deactivated. Just for the next week or so. Those who are close to me can call, text or email. Those who aren't, will have to sent their thoughts telepathically.
I wonder if my ex is getting the same kind of emails?